My Social Media detox

I’ve heard of a few people doing it, either for 2 weeks, 3 weeks, or as long as possible and I’ve thought about doing it for a while but always thought: ahhh, I’ll do it another day. But.. today is the day I go on a social media detox. I’ve been planning to do it for the last couple of days, reading up on different blogs about people’s experiences with social media detoxes – and to be honest, there wasn’t one person that said they regret doing it.

I read up on what needed to be done… and I’ll be honest with you, when I read that I should log out of YouTube, I almost decided to forget all about it. Then, I toyed with the idea of keeping Pinterest and YouTube (y’know, just for something to scroll on) but then thought to myself; if I’m going to do this, then I need to do it cold turkey. So I logged out of Twitter, Snapchat,YouTube, Pinterest, & (much to my dismay) Instagram, (I deactivated my Facebook around a month ago and haven’t missed it so far – and it was one less for me to say goodbye to today) and I put my phone to one side.

I’m going to be posting on here about how I’m feeling and dealing without social media.

Getting into bed on the first day of my detox, I put the side light on and opened my book (was feeling good at this point as I hadn’t yet thought about scrolling insta) then… as I was sat there reading, I heard an owl outside twit-twos-ing away. It was loveliest thing!! To sit up in bed reading listening to an owl. My immediate thought was; I must tweet about this moment!

My second thought was; why?! It’s a lovely moment that I enjoyed, so why must I feel the need to then document that on Twitter? It’s not like anyone reading my tweet will also feel the lovely cosy feels I felt in that moment?

Not long into my detox, it was Tom’s birthday. Normally, like many other person in their 20’s, I would post a cringeworthy photo of him on his Facebook page and wish him a Happy Birthday, but this year with my ban in place it was clearly a no-go. And for some bizarre reason, I felt bad! I woke up with Tom on his birthday, spent the day with him, made him birthday pancakes and even filled the kitchen with big helium balloons (to remind him how ooollddd he actually was) so all that along with the love filled birthday card, I think he got the message; but I still felt like I should have proclaimed a cheesy birthday announcement on his Facebook wall. He wouldn’t care if I did or not & neither should I, but I suppose in this day and age, without even realising, we are putting so much of our lives out on the Internet, that when someone expects to see something (e.g a girlfriend wishing their boyfriend happy birthday) and they don’t see it, there’s the immediate thought that all is not right in their worlds. I guess what I’m asking myself is; why in the hell should it matter whether I ‘publicly’ wished my boyfriend a happy birthday or not?! and the answer is…drumroll please…. IT DOESN’T! aha, I think I’m finally getting the hang of this!

Ok sooooo…. it’s been over a month since I wrote this post which goes to show much much less I used social media. It was difficult to start with, however as the days passed I started thinking less and less about it all; my insta feed, what to use as captions for my photos, what everyone else was up to etc etc etc… it got to the point where I just didn’t care! My boyfriend turned to me while we were on a walk one evening* and said ‘I’ve never known you to be so calm, what’s happened?’ and we realised it must have been because I wasn’t constantly thinking about my online life.

*I never used to go on walks & now thanks to the forcible nature of my friend Ellie (lol) I’ve been walking on most of my days off work – thanks petal!

So yep. I’m back on social media now and I have to say; I don’t love it as much as I did (which is a good thing). I haven’t bothered downloading Facebook again and I have my notifications turned off for any of my other apps (so I’ll only go on the apps when I want and not when I get pop ups). I still see how much time I waste on social media and need to work on that still, buuuut overall I’m SO glad I did the detox and will 100% be doing it again! If you feel like you spend too much time on social media then I recommend you do the same, even if it’s just for a week, I promise you’ll feel so much better, freer & I can guarantee you’ll care just as little about what people think you’re doing with your time as much as what other people are doing with theirs.

These days, we are so focused on our phones and social media etc and my friends and I often talk about how we feel so lucky to have spent our younger years playing out with friends and on our bikes etc. and because of that, I hope that our generation take that into account when we have our own kids. In some respect, I hope the social media  and technology frenzy does a 180, and spending more time outdoors and actually speaking to each other comes back into fashion some day!

 

Basically… if you’re thinking about having a social media detox… DO IT! and let me know how it goes!

 

Well, hello there.

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It’s Good Friday evening… I’ve done my evening skincare routine, got my pyjamas on and I’m in bed watching La La Land on Netflix – a premature grandma’s bliss. Most people I know are probably on their way out for a night on the town, but not me! (I’m working early tomorrow morning anyway so I couldn’t go out tonight even if I wanted to)

It’s been a while since I’ve posted anything on my blog! One thing I read while I was researching and debating starting a blog was ‘if you’re not feeling it, don’t force it’ and that’s what I did… I was’t feeling it and didn’t want to write about any old shite. HOWEVER, thankfully, I’ve enjoyed an evening of reading my book and relaxing and had the feeling of ‘ooh I want to write a post!’ so here we are!

One of the reasons I’ve not posted anything recently, is I’ve been feeling unmotivated to do anything. (and I mean ANYTHING!) I’ve stopped going to the gym, not been bothered about healthy eating and just haven’t been feeling inspired whatsoever. Weirdly, that’s not to say I haven’t been having a great time. I’ve been eating what I want, drinking what I want and having a lovely time of it. It was my birthday recently and (typical me) I extended the celebrations by a week celebrating with friends and family. Tom and I also went to Berlin and I will most definitely be writing a post on our trip.. that place is amazing!

As great as it’s been eating guilt free McDonald’s on a weekly basis (ok, sometimes more than once a week) & guzzling rosé, I feel like I’m finally in a mindset where I can get myself back on track… yes it’s Easter weekend, and yes I did just finish off a Dairy Milk easter egg to myself. Buuuuut, I’m feeling good about my 24th year on this planet… I’m going to make sure it’ll be a goodun! My plan is to save the £’s and lose the lb’s… not the other way round as I’ve been doing for far too long now!

Anyway, rambling over, I just wanted to say HI! and I promise the blog will be back on track ASAP – I’ve got a few posts lined up, starting with a post about the absolutely gorgeous hotel we got to stay in while in Berlin.

Hope everyone has a looovely Easter! (think of me, stuck in work while you’re drinking bubbly and eating Easter eggs galore!)

When life gets a little sh**ty..

When I started this blog I made a promise to myself that I would always be honest in everything I post (even if it makes me cringe all over). Therefore with all the good in my life that I show, I would also show the rubbish bits. Looking back over the past couple of days now, it doesn’t seem so bad and I can focus on all the lovely things that happened (went for dinner with Lois/date night with my boyfriend/saw my little baby cousin & got a big sloppy kiss off him) *womb backflipping.. until he projectile vomited everywhere*

But the rest of it was a just a bit rubbish. Nothing major happened, it’s just y’know when you’re already stressed and then a load of little things happen which make you want to strop on the floor and ugly cry. I won’t go into detail all the little things that pissed me off because, well they’re boring really and just things I’d laugh off had I been in a different mindset, but one of the things was little spat I had with Tom which turned into a full blown shouty/door slamming argument (all done by me and over nothing might I add). As well as that I’d lost my purse and my car was in the garage so I felt a tiny bit like a helpless, angry, crybaby.

HOWEVER.. like I said, looking back now it wasn’t all bad. Tom and I made up in no time, and found my purse in time for my night out with Lois & now have a fully functioning car!

What I’ve learned recently is: it is absolutely ok to have a bit of a meltdown sometimes…especially if you can sit back and reflect after it. It’s all about perspective and how I decide to handle things…and I definitely need to work on how I handle things..

(I mean, I definitely could have not called Tom a dick which would have sorted the issue much quicker, oops!)

But my point is, over the past couple of days I was focusing on all the negatives (no purse, no car etc) when I could have easily just focused on all the good that was going on at the time. After all they were first world problems to have in the first place. So next time (& trust me, there will be a next time) a rubbish couple of days come my way, I’ll hopefully treat them differently and look at the positive.

One thing I know *for sure* about myself is that when something “stressy” happens to me, I need time to myself to adjust, whether that’s 2 minutes to gather my thoughts or a whole day of watching Friends on Netflix & eating chocolate ice cream. But that’s ok, and it’s something I will always make sure to do for myself so I can process things and let them go.

Anyway since having those shitty days (and since writing this) a few maaajorly good things have happened! So one thing I need to remember is: yeah, things might not go my way at times, but that’s absolutely fine, because other times things WILL! So not so much ‘happy days’ but ‘balanced days’!

If you’re having a bit of a stressy time, I hope this helps … the only way is up baby! ha!

xxx

Our weekend in Whinfell

“A weekend well spent brings a week of content” …if this is true then my week should be bloody brilliant! It’s Monday morning and I’m sat in bed with a coffee listening to Radio 2 (I’m old before my time, get over it)

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BE MY VALENTINE

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Happy Valentie’s/Galentine’s Day everyone!!

I reminded Tom a few weeks ago that Valentine’s day was today and he turned to me and said; hang on, I know I’ve booked something for that day. There’s me thinking; the romantic guy he is, had booked something amazing for us.. he came back into the room with his diary, turned to me and said: yep… that’s when the gas man is coming and I’ve got a dentist appointment as well (!!!)

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Hello FAB-ruary!

So we finally made it to the second month of 2018! January seemed to go on for bloody ages! …that being said, I think I was one of the only people that really enjoyed January. I started off the year hangover in Paris with my boyfriend after celebrating NYE there, so I didn’t really hit the ground running with 2018. However, I feel like it was perfect for me having a few days to chill out without any ‘New Year, New Me’ pressure, because as soon as the holiday over, I switched to kick-ass mode and felt fully motivated to set (and stick to) my January goals.

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ALLO

Well hi & welcome to my first post! I thought I would use this as a good opportunity to 1 –  try and get used to this new website… and 2 – (and primarily) to introduce myself a little. I’m a spectacularly normal girl in her 20’s who’s decided to write random sh*t (it’ll be good sh*t, I promise) on the internet! I’m going to write about all things lifestyle. The good…and the bad bits in life because believe me, we all get them! But just as a little insight into me: I love delving into the worlds of beauty and fashion, I am utterly obsessed with my pet bunny rabbit, so no doubt he’ll be making an appearance or two. I have recently moved in with the other half and I’m loooving the whole interior design aspect of that. Oh, and I’m pretty sure I have a shopping addiction, so at least I can justify that by posting a haul (…or four thousand!) I love to travel and will do my utmost to get away as often as I can… but lastly I love to write, and I miss it, which is mostly why I’ve decided to start this blog!

I hope a few of you at least will stick around to see what I’ll be up to in the near future. Happy 2018!